I have been afraid. I am still afraid. The worst part is I know the fear will not go away and I have known this for years.
Every encounter with the unknown, whether it be through skydiving, serving in Iraq with the US Marines, or crossing an icecap has sent waves of fear through every inch of my being. But when the price of failure meant death, I rose to the occasion. I excelled.
However, when the price of failure has meant neglect, or more accurately the perception of neglect, I cowered.
I have run away from this blog and the book I am writing by diving into underwater caves and attending seminar after seminar in the last few weeks.
Through each experience, I have sought a greater understanding of what it takes to achieve fulfillment and success so that I have more value to contribute to the world. But instead, I have shunned my self imposed responsibility to be of service to the human family. The very family I seek to make a difference with.
For fear of not providing enough value, I have provided none. I have let my fears get the better of me.
But that all changes today!
No longer will I shirk responsibility and hide within the guise of personal growth. I now know that the greatest personal growth and the only real “self-help,” is the service of others.
As Gandhi said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
The self-help industry is a billion dollar industry because most of us are stuck in learning mode and paralyzed by even the thought of action.
I attended a webinar from Jim Bunch once, and he found that only 4% of people who attend large personal development seminars actually implement the knowledge they learn and take action.
This is not to say that I don’t believe in the value of these seminars. I have gained an immense amount of knowledge and growth from the many seminars I have attended. But the true value from them comes when you put it into action in service of others.
That is the greatest myth of the self help industry. Self help is not about helping oneself, it is about helping others.
Tony Robbins once said “A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.”
Since leaving the Marines, I have not fully committed to my decision to be of service to something greater than myself. Whilst I have taken some actions in honor of that decision, I have not taken nearly enough.
But that all changes today!
This ties in to part eight of the ten part series that began with the brief outline of the 10 steps to becoming the greatest salesman in the world, as outlined by Og Mandino in his book, The Greatest Salesman in the World.
The eight step to becoming the greatest salesman in the world to multiply your value a hundredfold.
Just to reinforce, by no means do I condemn the constant process of growth through learning. Unless I am on an expedition, I read about a book and a half a week and I have spent thousands of dollars on seminars. So I place immense value on learning and growth.
But today, we are talking about action. We are talking about self help through service.
In Og Mandino’s words, this is the mentality we will be focused on: “I will never be content with my performance in the market”
As some of you might have noticed, there have been some changes that have been taken place here at the Existing2Living community. There will be a few more in service of improving my performance in the market, which to me means increasing the value I provide.
So here are a few of the changes you will be seeing in the coming weeks:
– We will be launching a weekly (yes, weekly, not bi weekly or monthly) podcast on Itunes from the show “Our journey into the human experience.”
– We will be switching up some of the free content we give away to simplify it and make it as jam packed with actionable material as possible.
– Our video quality will be a lot better than it has been so far. Still learning the ropes and I appreciate your patience.
– The content on this site will be focused around using psychological and physiological principles to embrace risk and achieve mastery over the self in order to then broadcast a message of value to as many people in the world as possible. In essence, Existing2Living will show you how to master your mind, body, heart and spirit, get clarity on your unique vision for the world and market that message to all corners of the globe.
– You may be wondering, why I have been using “we” instead of “I.” That is because this will be more of a community moving forward with more people contributing to this site. The intention is for this place not to be about me, Akshay Nanavati, but to be about a group of people committed to mastery, for self and others.
Before I get into today’s action, I just want to thank Maneesh Sethi. I was inspired by him to write this post and share what is going through my mind. Often that means being vulnerable at the risk of being judged.
I have been on Maneesh’s list for a while and he is one of the most authentic people I have encountered online. I have only had the pleasure of meeting him briefly once, but if you get a chance I highly recommend you check out his site for not only a refreshing dose of authenticity, but invaluable tips on productivity and creating the lifestyle you want to live.
Even as I write this, there is fear that I will be judged, but I have decided to embrace this fear just as I have the fear of death in order to create a space for others to share their fears. There is nothing more valuable in the journey toward success than a community that supports each other. That is my intention here.
If you really want to see the power of vulnerability to shift the world, check out this amazing TED talk from Brene Brown.
In honor of Brene Brown and Maneesh Sethi, today’s action is to share your fears that are blocking you from unleashing your vision onto the world with at least one person. Then embrace that fear, I didn’t say fight it or get rid of it, I said embrace it and take one action in service of others. No matter how small or large, just do one thing to help someone else better their life. Through this you will find the real meaning of self-help.
Please share in the comments below, what are your fears and what will you do today to embrace those fears and leave a mark on this planet?